I know a great many women. So many different types. Some who claim to be strong and independent ( some who are, and some who,clearly aren't), some who eschew all types of femininity,(claiming those qualities to be weak), and some who live their lives between the two. Since the feminist movement and the struggle for equality I think the pendulum has swung too far the other way. Women are afraid to be women. We ARE different than men. Why do we feel the need to show how similar we are.Yes we can do the same jobs as men and deserved to be paid the same if we are doing the same job. Yes our vote counts,our opinion counts, WE count. But when did we stop celebrating the differences. Somewhere along the line being feminine became synonymous with weak and fragile. I am here to say that this is not the case! I can wear a dress and make-up and high heels and still be a strong woman. I can swoon over a good looking man and still be independent. I can giggle with my girlfriends and still be intelligent. These are things that make me happy. I'm starting to resent the implication that if I like GIRLY things that it somehow does not make me a STRONG
woman. I resent the fact that some think I've been lured in by propaganda because I like to buy potions and lotions and creams. I resent that people judge me (or others like me) who enjoy a great pair of shoes and nice new purse, somehow insinuating that they are 'better" than me (or us) because they don't "go in for all that stuff". Seriously? That is your CHOICE and thankfully you have it. But I also have the choice. That's the great thing about equality. We have the ability to be OURSELVES and to be accepted for it. Women are so competitive. We are such a strong force that, should we join together to try and accomplish something, we can conquer the world. But we CHOOSE to point out the differences of what it means to be a woman.To condemn those differences if they do not match our own thoughts on what a woman should be. Taking special effort to look the way you look , does NOT make you shallow.
Remember that we all have a story. We all have a history that has shaped us to be who we are. The next time you see a woman who dresses different than you, DON'T judge her. This is not to say that I don't have my days where I do nothing but stay in my sweats all day but....it's not what I prefer.We all know that beauty is more than skin deep. It's what I teach my daughter. You don't have to wear make-up to be pretty but if it's what makes you feel good;then that's ok too. If wearing nice clothes and shoes makes you feel more like yourself, then no one else should judge you for that. If you see a young girl who is dressed in the latest fashions and has her hair done just so, don't assume her parents haven't taught her all about self esteem, and being true to yourself, and that she is more than her looks. You CAN have it all!
I guess I'm done with my rant now. I'm going to go wash my face and slip into a slinky nightgown. I'm going to turn on the sappiest show on tv (hopefully one with a good looking leading man), and have a great night sleep with possibly a few x-rated dreams. :)