Recently a friend overheard some grade 5 and 6 students playing at school and tossing around the word "rape". Putting it on fb, it soon accumulated many comments about how wrong it was. A few more examples were thrown in of young kids jumping off of things in the playground and saying "I'm committing suicide!" Seriously!!!! What is going on with our kids these days? Are we too permissive. Are we not talking enough with our children on these subjects. It used to be just about drugs and drinking: "just say no!" Now we need
I often think of the European countries where they consider the human body nothing to be ashamed of. It's everywhere( billboards, commercials) and kids see it from an early age. When they do see breasts (that most of us have fed upon...hello); it's not really a big deal to them.It's part of the human body that they have seen many times and have grown up believing that it is nothing to be ashamed of. It's not a secret! I find the more secretive we make things....the more kids want to know about it. And really; they ARE finding out more and more all the time. Another example is the availability of alcohol in Quebec. Their attitude towards it, is a lot more liberal and you can buy it in the corner store. When I was there at 18 years of age, I thought this was great!!!! You can buy booze right at the 7/11! The kids in Quebec, however did not find this all that exciting. They had grown up with it and it was no big deal to them. There has to be some good lessons to be taken from that. Of course all these things cannot be introduced all at once.We CAN however start within the home.
No topic is off limits in our house. If you are old enough to ask about it, then you are old enough to know about it.If they are asking.........then it means they already have "SOME" information on it. You need to find out if they have the facts straight. I understand that kids are growing up way too fast these days and we want them to have a happy healthy childhood; full of great kid-like memories. But we also need to remember that we don't have control over a lot of things and burying our heads in the sand and avoiding the big questions because we "think our kids are too young for that" is not going to help anyone in the long run. TALK to your kids about it all. Keep the lines of communication open. That's all I'm saying!