I have been thinking about writing a post on family for a while now. It's been hard though because it's such a
SO........This may sound harsh but....I am related to some people that I don't particularly like. Some by blood and some by marriage.I am also related to some people that I don't even KNOW. I mean, there are lots of them. I obviously don't know my entire family tree!! but there are some, that are fairly close, geographically, that I do not KNOW, and don't care to know. I'm not interested in finding out WHO they are .I'm quite fine with keeping them at a distance. Some have already burned bridges and shown their true colors and some are just not that interesting to me. It sounds cruel but really.....do you seek out people to get to know because you find them uninteresting, or you already have a beef with them and want to be BFF's??? Ummmm no! You do not! So why do some feel that this relationship should be nurtured at all costs because they are "family"? That is not what family means to me. I have some friends who are in no way "related" to me, whom I consider family! I love them and would do just about anything for them. They are more like family to me than some that share the same blood or the same last name! Is there a rule that says they must come second because of this? NO! Perhaps there are those who feel these way! I KNOW there are. But this is NOT my reality. Life is waaaaay too short to be putting these restrictions on my life of who must have more of my time and energy. I'm sorry but....I DECIDE that!!!!! I'm sure a few of you can relate!
Now don't get all pissy because you think I'm not devoted to my family or don't care about them. Even the ones who are not a part of my life;still mean something to me. I do not wish them any ill will. I would be upset if something were to happen to them. I'm not totally against family!!! lol I really just think we should take a hard look at what that word means.I don't think we should give it so much POWER! When parents lock their child in a cage and refuse to let her out to use the washroom, or to go outside, shoot her with cold water from a hose and beat her with a pole.......ummm sorry......but you do not get to use the word FAMILY! click here to see more SICK!I think back in the day....maybe the word held more meaning , but to me....it really has lost its luster. I'm not sure what word should be taking its place but.......'family' has been abused so much that when someone throws it in my face ...: "THEY'RE FAMILY!!!" It really has no impact on me! To me this is something that needs to be earned, like love. Not something that is just doled out. Of course children and babies always hold a special place because they do NOT know what family is. They only know love. They don't categorize. They don't have expectations. You see how complicated it becomes???? What does the word "family" mean to you?